Feeling Like You Need More
It is only once you have determined your values that you are truly able to put a plan in place to make your dreams and goals happen. Your values play such an important role in achieving what you want, because you need them to guide you in the right direction.
If you feel like you need more self-discipline in your life, it might actually be your lack of direction. You likely have a large goal in mind, like being wealthy or successful. However, what is really missing is a more specific plan as to how you will get there.
Will Smith has a great story about building a brick wall as a child and how he has used this memory to excel in his personal life and career. He explains how you must start your wall with a perfectly laid brick and continue to add to it one brick at a time. The message is the importance of approaching each goal as a perfectly laid brick in your wall, as it will be essential to the success and growth of your dreams. There are many resources out there to help people set and track goals, brick by brick.
I completely agree, you need to set goals that can be tracked and measured, but that still doesn’t help you figure out how to set goals that are going to get you closer to you main objective.
Recently, while driving ten hours to Quebec, I was listening to the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Stephen Covey spoke about how having unshakeable values deep inside you, could allow you to be flexible on the surface. It is nearly impossible to convey his message in just one sentence. However, what I think he was saying here, is that you need your values to guide you in the right direction, but you need flexibility in the path you take to get there. All that being said, it can be hard to identify your values and what you really stand for.
After much thought, and completing a little mental exercise, I was able to identify a few of my key values and i am surprised at how greatly it has impacted my life. For example, I was often frustrated with my coworkers and managers as I felt they were not giving their best while on the clock. Once I realized I highly valued excellence and being my best, it made me aware that I was holding my coworkers to the expectations and standards that I hold for myself, and that just was not realistic. Needless to say, I am now aware and much less frustrated with my work environment.
Can you identify your values?
Try this exercise:
Think back over the years, in your personal and professional life, to times when you have made decisions or reacted to a particular event that you felt very strongly about. Think about recurring themes, different situations in which you reacted the same way each time. This is how you will figure out your values and what you stand for.
Try this exercise:
It is only once you have determined your values that you are truly able to put a plan in place to make your dreams and goals happen. Your values play such an important role in achieving what you want, because you need them to guide you in the right direction. You will be able to recognize tasks and objectives that are important to you and line them up with your ultimate goal.
Imagine the unstoppable power and control you would have over your destination in life, if you combine your value driven direction with positive thinking.